I’ve been struggling to write this last week. I spoke with a good friend of mine and she made a comment about how people may not want to read my blog due to the current situation with Coronavirus.
She is a sensitive, emotional and empathetic person and a comment like this doesn’t normally leave her mouth. She is thoughtful and thinks about what she wants to say. I know her intention would not have been to hurt my feelings but there I sat in tears.
I was so upset about the comment that I reached out to a support group called SANDS that I belong to. I asked them what they thought about the comment and if she was saying what others were thinking. Should we not grieve and talk about the loss of our babies during the virus? Is the world more worried about what is happening now that all other struggles should be put on hold?
I received many comforting comments that helped me to look at it from outside the hurt I was feeling.
One of the most poignant comments was that our grieve doesn’t stop because of this virus in fact it can be more difficult when our life’s are on hold and we have more time to rest and think with very little support from family and friends who we can’t see at the moment.
Writing is very therapeutic for me and although I would love it to progress to a level where it reaches and supports so many others that have experienced similar, I am grateful for the outlet for my own benefit.
Ultimately we all grieve in different ways and we try and make it through the day in whatever way we can. Grieve is consuming and doesn’t stop because the world is going through a pandemic.
I share my blog in the hopes it might help or reach out to someone in a difficult moment. I share it because I want to change the way the world deals with pregnancy loss. I share it because it helps me. It is your choice to click and read it and I’m so grateful to the ones that do. I can’t tell you how much it means to me, this quiet support that I receive.
Stars in the Sky 