Life is busy!

The day I became mum was the day it was not all about me. Being mum has taught me that I am not the important person and my needs although still need to be met are not the be all and end all. Instead my beautiful dependents are always the priority.

I don’t know what it is inside of you that changes to make you selfless and put their needs first always maybe it’s just as simple as becoming a parent that gives you that ability.

I often wondered about the little things I would need to learn to deal with like never having the time to have that soak in a bubble bath, or getting to drink that cup of tea when it’s hot, or even eating your own meal all by yourself…you get what I mean!

The little things in life that I found solace in or appreciated. The little things that maybe I gave a little too much importance to.

I also didn’t recognise that as much as I love my husband it will be no longer about us but about our family. There was going to be inevitable shift with our importance to each other. We would have to put our date days or nights on hold. We would have to find time to sneak some cuddles and kisses for ourselves.

However our lives would be so much richer with the moments and kisses we now share as a family and our love would become far greater even with the divide of sharing our love to more than just the two of us! Our lives would become about them, then us if we get the chance!

What I didn’t expect or anticipate dealing with was learning to let go of the people who don’t give the love and time my children deserve. I knew I would find this hard as I have always been the organiser and suddenly life became too busy for me to be the organiser and the mum with two businesses. I organise us and invite you to it all but that’s the most I can do for now.

There comes a time when you have to hope that you and your family means enough to the others for them to give up their time without it being organised for them.

I know and appreciate that we are not the only ones with a busy life but there really is no excuse not to send a video message or do a video call if you physically can’t get over here.

No matter how busy your lives are some people should just be making the time not the excuses.

As sad I am for them as their parent when they don’t have the bond or relationship with the people I hoped they would, I ultimately know that it is not them missing out but YOU!

It is you that is missing out on Kayden’s funny faces he pulls and his tendency to try and make you laugh. He is a little comedian and he loves to make people laugh! He would make you belly laugh if you gave him the time!

It is you missing out on Layla’s story telling and imaginative play. This girl has an imagination to rival! She would take on the most magical journeys if you gave her the time!

It is YOU that is missing out on the moments when they learn new words or try and pronounce new words. I shouldn’t have to decipher what they are trying to say. If you see them enough and give them your time then you would know!

Don’t visit much then, it is YOU that has missed out on milestones, birthdays, Easters, growth, development and ultimately a relationship!

They won’t miss who they don’t see. They won’t regret not having you in their lives if you can’t put them first or make time for them. They just won’t know any different but ME I do and I am sad for them because you can’t make time to be important in their lives.

The sad truth is they won’t know what they are missing if it wasn’t there in the first place. So when they don’t ask after you anymore or as much, then that is also on YOU!

But more importantly it is not about YOU it’s about the young children that love you unconditionally and don’t know how busy your lives are!

It’s the young children that want to show you only unconditional love. It’s the young children that you should move heaven and earth to be with!

Can’t make that time…they know no different. They are loved so much that your missed love really will just go amiss!

Their lives are rich whether you make the time to be in it or not. They know love and to be honest as once famously said it is better to have loved and lost then never have loved!

So whether you chose to be an occasional visitor or a passing visitor in their lives they will only ever know love!